Do you really need to say yes to everything that’s demanded of you? In this issue of Thursday Thoughts I’m talking about why you need to think seriously about what you agree to. Ready to take control? Then let’s talk!
Hello Talkers! 👋🗣😃
I need to get something off my chest.
If my email inbox and Instagram DMs are anything to go by, there seems to be a real increase in random people feeling that they’re not only entitled to flog a product or service to you completely unsolicited but to then also get annoyed with you if you don’t drop everything and immediately respond (or respond at all) to their unsolicited sales pitch.
And then, if you do reply and politely say no, throw a tantrum and hound you repeatedly to try and change your answer.
I mean, what the hell?!
As a creator I get lots of these types of messages and I’ve seen a real uplift in the number of people not only not taking ‘no’ for an answer but also behaving as though I have some sort of obligation to them just because they’ve decided so.
News flash: none of us are obligated to do or say anything. Period. End of sentence. And especially not from some random person who thinks behaving in a rude and pushy manner is appropriate behaviour (which it’s not).
You don’t owe anybody anything, and that doesn’t make you rude; it makes you someone who enough self-respect to know that you cannot possibly have the time or the mental bandwidth to deal with all the demands that come at each of us from every conceivable angle in life… so we need to make smart choices, which often involve having to say no.
And that’s OK. Actually, it’s more than OK; it’s healthy.
Even when it comes to the people closest to you, it’s not practical to think that you can take on all the requests that are made of you while also juggling the 847 other things you’re probably dealing with. And that’s why you need to learn to say no, in a polite-yet-assertive way, so that you don’t end up taking on too much and burning out.
So here’s my tip of the week: Remind yourself that you’re not obligated to anyone, and other people being rude and pushy is their issue rather than yours. And, most importantly, give yourself permission to say no (and if you need some help with that, I talked about how to do that back in Episode 105).
Until our next talk,
Jeremy 😃
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